Next time you strike up a conversation with someone, I would encourage you to play the following game:

Avoid talking about yourself for as long as possible. You can only talk about yourself if the other person asks you something about yourself.

You may be surprised at how much the other person enjoys this game (but only if they don’t know you’re playing).

If you haven’t already noticed, most people really enjoy talking about themselves. Even those who claim to hate talking about themselves simply haven’t had someone show genuine interest in what they have to say.

Once you get good at the game, you’ll notice a trend of great conversations. You may even start feeling icky when you have to talk about yourself.

If you get really good at the game, people may just start playing the game against you.

And that, my friends, is how you become great at conversation.